Both Mauro and Chris Degnen have good answers in the idealism direction.
Here is one more of the same vein.
Infant to Adult and back
Have you seen an infant grow up?
When we adults are in pain we say: “I am in pain!” Except when it becomes really painful and we reach the borders of consciousness and there are just screams, groans etc without mediating articulated language.
Likewise we express joy, anger, confusion... verbally. Or at most in actions.
For the infant it's unmediated by articulation, pure — gurgles, squeals, smiles, screams.
This is the first stage — pure consciousness.
Soon after, (6 months to a year) sounds start to be articulated which will later become:
- Ma
- Pa
- milk (I want!)
- cleaning (I need!)
- etc
Let's say the infant's name is "Matt".
It will be noticed that he says "Ma" and "Pa" before he says "Matt".
And he says “Matt” for a while before learning to say “I”
In fact it is very striking to watch how the young 'un gets confused how "Matt and Pa" become "You and I" sometimes and "I and you" sometimes.
This we may call the beginning of individuation — somewhere along the way between age 2 and 4 typically.
This clearing out which happens typically between age 4 and 6 is what we may call "particularization".
Still, until about 10 the child lives in a "naturally magical world", not quite grokking that thoughts do not move external objects on their own. We may call this a magical world because the child does not distinguish between my world and the common world.
When that distinction is confirmed, hardened and ossified we get an "adult" (so-called).
A few rare individuals (see Jung , Harding) find a way back in adulthood from the individualized, particularized thing-state to the pristine child state.
Most of the world's religions have a reference to that pristine state: Eden in Judeo-Christianity, Satya-yuga in Hinduism etc.
And on rare occasions, found strewn across secular literature
— The great English poet Wordsworth remembers his childhood.
You may ask what this has to do with...
Your question
Why am I this particular conscious individual?
We assume that particularness and individuation are intrinsic and inherent in consciousness. It is not so as a careful examination of the state near the "ends" (both birth and death) would show.
When we learn to separate consciousness from a particular individual we may be able to access the only answers that can (properly) address the question: the Buddhist and the Vedantic. They sound opposite but are really complementary.
Buddhist
There is no self. There may well be experience. But there is no being who experiences — anatta (actually an-atma)
Vedantic
There is only self — atma. The whole world is a film-show of maya. But in fact there are no people, events, story. Just the screen remaining ever unaffected by the play of light.
Independent support for inegalitarian view
Mauro's answer talks of the "inegalitarian view". Here are some more evidences for the inegalitarian, idealist viewpoint.
1. Language
Verb |
Inf |
1st |
2nd |
3rd |
eat |
to eat |
I eat |
you eat |
he eats |
sit |
to sit |
I sit |
you sit |
she sits |
etc |
|
|
|
|
is |
to be |
I am |
you are |
she is |
So while many verbs in English are irregular, to be is specially irregular.
And this special irregularity of to be is found across languages. eg. In German it is:
verb: sein, Ich bin, Sie sind, Er ist
To me this suggests that from the distant past people have understood that "I am" is fundamentally different from "He is" "This table is" etc.
2. State of Deep Sleep
In the Vedantic teaching, the pinnacle is considered to be the Mandukya Upanishad which contains little more than a recitation of the three states of consciousness — waking, dream, and dreamless sleep, the implication being that one who has understood these has understood all that is to be understood.
So what is the big deal about these particularly deep sleep?
The question is usually formulated pithily as: How were you in deep sleep?
For the physicalist this is a trivial question with a trivial answer: I was lying on the bed, snoring.
For the idealist however this is a highly non-trivial question.
Because this does not work if consciousness is the root which generates the whole universe, and I was not conscious!
And yet we cannot say we don't exist because
- A Matt does not wake up a Rushi (comes back to your question)
- More significantly a really deep sleep has a sense of profound satisfaction without specific data, ie. memories: We know we exist(ed) but we cant say how. So this becomes an intimation of the child "pre-fall" state.